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Updated: Mar 17, 2022

Salutations Manifesters! Tuesday was March 15th, which is known as the Ides of March. You may ask what does that have to do with life coaching? I embarked upon an in-depth discussion with my business partner, Lisa, about this very topic. For her, the Ides of March made her immediately think of stabbing someone in the back as in Julius Caesar's demise. We embarked upon a discussion about what I recently uncovered about the Ides in my own investigation of its meaning. In unearthing what lay between common knowledge and deeper truth, our coaching metaphor was uncovered.

Lisa's knowledge of the Ides of March is the most modern and best-known association yet there is more to it than the Shakespearean pop culture reference from his Julius Caesar play. The Ides of March's origins date back to symbolism of the new moon and Jupiter, the Roman mythological god of thunder. Fittingly the Ides have been associated with Roman religious rites and new year celebrations. The "Ides"literally translates to the 15th - of certain months, March included, in the Roman calendar. When I revealed to Lisa the the pre-Shakespearean notions of the Ides, she remarked that is is amazing what happens when we let go of the past idea of something know to embrace a different interpretation. She showed that our process of digging into the meaning behind the Ides of March proved an obvious metaphor for life coaching. It is through the process of questioning clients and digging deeper that we find what lies underneath. When a client searches all truth of their story, separating facts from their emotion and memories to see what is their unblemished reality, a more complete picture emerges. This objectivity is the truth illuminating our path to our authenticity. Thus, the client process is akin to research - we are always looking for what lies beneath the surface.

As Lisa and I discussed the meaning of the Ides further, she cleverly posed the question, what happens when we let go of the preconceived notions and dig deeper? Seekers of any knowledge - us researching the Ides or clients seeking their own purpose - desire to uncover the whole truth. This is the story of life coaching. Coaches ask discerning questions to assist clients to look beyond the obvious, easy or known responses. Truth is often buried under unrecognized layers of the past, excuses, and trauma that time and necessity have covered. Expert coaches are the hired detectives helping the client shine a light on the clues leading them to the answers they seek. To discover what lies beneath the surface. Coaches are entrusted confidents and partners requisitioned to hold the flashlight upon the client's new revelation to examine. This creates a sacred, trusted, space devoted solely to the client so they can find the courage to bring their most genuine self into the light.

Caesar. Who is it in the press that calls on me? I hear a tongue, shriller than all the music, Cry 'Caesar!' Speak; Caesar is turn'd to hear.
Soothsayer. Beware the ides of March.
Caesar. What man is that?
Brutus. A soothsayer bids you beware the ides of March.
Caesar. Set him before me; let me see his face.
Cassius. Fellow, come from the throng; look upon Caesar.
Caesar. What say'st thou to me now? speak once again.
Soothsayer. Beware the ides of March.
Caesar. He is a dreamer; let us leave him: pass.
Excerpt from Julius Caesar by William Shakespeare

So ask yourselves what could be possible if we open ourselves to embrace new perspectives and deeper truths? Are we empowered or disempowered? Is our view more expansive or more limiting? Are we more willing to play it safe or to take risks? Like the Ides, at first glance it may be easier or more comfortable to believe the known or immediate answer, which may also be true. Generally it proves more rewarding and purposeful to uncover the whole truth of what lies beneath. Had Caesar persisted investigating the Soothsayer's warning, "Beware the Ides of March," perhaps he could have uncovered the truth and altered his outcome.

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Dear Manifesters! The Spring Equinox is nigh and cabin fever is at all-time high. Soon we will be trading in our snow shovels for garden trowels to usher in marigolds, daffodils and hyacinths. As variants slow and Covid melds into part of the landscape as much as tulips and ramps will, mask mandates loosen and we emerge from life post-hibernation. For some of us this means returning to where we left off, for others an opportunity to forge a new path. Either way, we seem poised to defend this brave (#SupportUkraine!), uncertain, newish world. The palpable, unavoidable feeling of wanting to sprout through the frozen tundra and bloom fully echoes two big events this weekend: Daylight Savings time and Plant a Flower Day (both March 12).

These first rites of Spring coincidentally mirror the coaching client's journey when one views the seed as the client's intention and the growth plan as the client's action. The size of the seed and step do not matter; the value lies in choosing any action at all. Honoring the Springtime initiatives of this weekend, Manifest Coaches urge you to pick the seed you want to nurture and bloom for maximum, sustainable growth. What is the one thing you most wish to change, accomplish or manifest in the world? Chose that and you have your seed that you can start to germinate. We will tend your plant alongside to help you choose the best tools, fertilizer, soil, light and anything else to help you grow your idea into action. Naturally, your hands may get dirty, yet you may enjoy tending a garden of your unique design.

"Bloom where you are planted." - Mary Engelbreit via Bishop of Geneva, Saint Francis de Sales

If you are unsure what seed to nourish or how to begin, try asking yourself, "Which of my desired actions might benefit or improve me the most? Or which has the greatest influence to direct me where I want to grow?" Planting is not about outcomes, though the harvest is always a goal, even when it looks different than originally hoped. Building a garden is about planning to create the ideal conditions for sustainable growth. In that aspect, gardening is an appropriate metaphor for life coaching. Coaching may provide the ideal conditions, such as guidance and support, for each client to discover their personal plan and ingredients for their garden to flourishes. On this journey, the client, like the gardener, uncovers their path by breaking down their growth plan into steps, like paving stones, which help to maintain and measure their progress.

Once you determine you choose your initial seed you may hear internal excuses rising and you are not alone. "I'm too scared, too old, too young, too busy, too poor, too incapable, too undeserving, etc.," is the internal soundtrack for many of us. The practices obtained from working aside a life coach can empower you to excise the fear voices which have blocked your path to success much of your life. Excuses are like common weeds, reoccurring everywhere and seemingly impossible to control, and fear is the fertilizer feeding them. Your coach will support you to find the right tools to recognize your excuses and fears and acknowledge them, so you will know how to pluck them from stifling your blooms. Imagine what you could choose to do with your life if there was nothing impeding your path?

"To plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow. " - Audrey Hepburn

As you begin hoeing your garden, each step of planting and nurturing your seed will demonstrate progress, though you may need help to recognize it. Each progression needs acknowledgment like plants need soil and water. Tracking your movements forward will yield proof that you are indeed growing! The more evidence of change the higher your level of confidence will rise. Nothing can unstick you from feeling stuck by tending growth from seed to bloom.This methodology of gardening self-care will yield significant progress and knowledge of your growth cycle and allow you to expand one hopeful seed at a time.

A great place to start sowing your seeds for harvest is with Manifest Group Coaching. To tend your garden of dreams a safe, sacred space is required. This space provides secure practice unfolding your authentic purpose, one leaf at a time, while receiving the support you want and deserve. Shake off hibernation and spring into action starting April 26th at 6:00 pm CST. A superb introduction to life coaching novices, this amazing Manifest Group Coaching Introduction is only $99 ($385 value!) for five 1-hour group sessions. This provides you with a certified coach and a support group for less than $25 a session. Follow the season and spring forward by planting your seed for growth. Book your Manifest Group Coaching Introduction today for just $99!

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Letter to an Elder Day is this Saturday, February 26, 2022. This national day manifested in 2020 when a young volunteer at the nonprofit Love for Our Elders wrote a loving letter to his Grandpa. The idea behind the day was to send love to someone who, being elderly, may experience greater loneliness and isolation. In our pandemic era, these feelings are known by many more than just the elderly. Letter to an Elder Day has progressed to include writing to anyone older than you, be it a sibling, mentor, teacher, relative, or friend. This year it seems more important than ever to honor outreach and humanity to an elder in your life.

"I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn." - Anne Frank

Depending upon if I am coming from a place of fear or freedom, a proactive behavior choice for me is to write. Whether you want to improve overall health, process and organize your thoughts, express emotions, improve communication and memory, help articulation, or reinforce learning anything new, the physical act of writing can provide these benefits and more. Additionally, there is scientific evidence that the physical process of writing has numerous wellness benefits for the brain and soul because the act forces the writer to think and focus. There is even support to show that journal writing can assist us to work through trauma.

The process of writing something down reinforces your creative intuition and allows for personal expression free from judgment. It also serves to reinforce the memory of your recorded thoughts, adding permanence each time you write down a memory, share a story or correspond with an old friend. The activity of writing can provide proof of your growth. Each time your record your actions, intentions, thoughts, goals, and gratitudes you are building evidence of your progress.

I wrote my way out
Wrote everything down far as I could see. . .
I'll write my way out
Overwhelm them with honesty
- Lin Manuel Miranda, "Hurricane," Original Broadway Cast of Hamilton

This past summer, while my husband and I, along with the rest of the world, were still cautiously navigating the line between in-person meetings and heavy quarantining, I found out my Uncle Dave had some severe complications from cancer treatment. As my husband explained to me that Aunt Sharon and Uncle Dave were not entertaining visitors at this time, I immediately felt the full force of my caregiving instinct crash into a solid brick wall. Fear was taking hold. If I could not see Dave or Sharon, how could I support them or myself? Showing up and doing is my DNA monogram and I own that shit. Fear turned toward panic. Who is providing support if they are not receiving visitors? What if we don't see them and the worst happens? I looked at my husband sitting around the unlit firepit on a balmy afternoon in our green backyard, a pretty, secluded oasis in the concrete jungle of Chicago, tears welling in my eyes, and I said abruptly, "I have to write." With knowing agreement and encouragement from my husband, I left to do just that.

In that moment I wrote my Aunt and Uncle a letter and poured all the things I wanted to express to them into it. Here is an excerpt:

You see, it didn’t matter that I knew you for 5 minutes, an hour, or a year. I was marrying Shamus and you immediately accepted me as a part of the family. Now, I don’t know if that was because Sharon’s brother and Shamus’ Dad, Kevin, liked me and buttered me up or if you just took to me the way I took to the both of you. I surrendered immediately in a crush-worthy enchantment to your contagious joyful and real presence. To say I liked you immediately is an understatement. I think I pretty much loved you both from the get.

Now I adore the O’Toole Tribe, but Sharon and Dave, you hold a special place in my heart. In addition to your immediate acceptance of me, you are just the loveliest of genuine people. Aunt Sharon, you are a kindred spirit. You bake, cook, laugh a lot, are a caregiver, helped raise my husband, are a bibliophile, and collect stray cats. For anyone who knows me, your characteristics are the ingredients in my recipe for instant love. For those reasons and many more, I immediately recognized you as a member of my tribe. Also, you show up. Someone dies, someone moves, someone grieves, and Sharon is there, usually with Dave in tow. So Dave shows up too. I come from a family of women who show up because someone is hurting, grieving, struggling, or may just need someone or something and might be unable or unaware to ask. Those tribal members receive my immediate, unequivocal respect. We belong in the tribe of shared human compassion.

I did not send the letter then. I think because I was unsure whether I was writing for the letter for me or for them and I was unsure what they needed. (Spoiler: Uncle Dave did get better and I ended up seeing them in December!) Yet, the letter has all the things I still want to share with them. So I will send it now to honor us. Letter to an Elder day seems ideal.

Ironically, I have written more cards and letters in the past two years than in the past ten. Due to my personal development evolution and definitely as a result of pandemic-induced physical isolation. Having written consistently and frequently in the past year, my confidence and authenticity expanded within my chosen communication method. Pre-pandemic, the busyness of everyday life found me caught up in excuses of not having enough time, too exhausted, too busy, too scared to gut check my real feelings or the purpose of my writing. I actually love letter writing . . . and my elders. Sometimes they can be more challenging or more wonderful as experience and age exerts it's toll upon them. (I know. I am entering the shallow end of the aging pool.) Yet, this does not minimize their need for decency, humanity, or legacy. They are our pioneers, our contemporaries, and treasure chests of historical stories, which link us to our past.

So I encourage you to write a letter to one of your elders today. Fill up your heart and theirs. Let the love flow. No matter the reason, the content, style, or length, I guarantee you will both be glad you did.

We are here and ready to assist you on your path to your authentic self and purpose. Even if you just need a little help overcoming fear, emotion, overwhelm, loneliness or isolation. Manifest Guides and Life Coaching is here to support you! Reach out to and seize the best version of you yet!

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